Dont give up !

We humans always want it to be simple...ie.everything has to be done in simple way! We find ease in letting things go rather letting people go off our lives when we think they arent matching or running parallel with our thoughts.


I wouldn't be surprised if tomorrow our country is competing with western countries Divorce rates! "Impatience", "Misunderstandings", "Assumptions", "I AM RIGHT ATTITUDE", "ME", "I".... !! Where do we think the world will lead to if these are the words put in use often.
Would like to share a story...
There was a couple (still exist..😊) who were poles apart...both loved each other but both were hurt due to each other cz of some reasons. Reasons are many if they wanted to break up. And solutions are many if they wanted to stay together.
Easy way to get rid of all the hurt and suffering is to cut the person down. Another way is to scratch your brain and think of all the ways that can lead to a happy ending or rather a happy beginning. They selected the route two and stayed happily ever after. LOVE was their key now.


But the other couple selected the route one. One amongst them broke off. Both remained hurt..they thought it would be easy to move on. But soon realised that its very difficult to move on with some one esle with the same purity and same level of love. But they found it apt 'cz they felt they had lot of difference's.They didnt even attempt to work it out. No communication..no discussion oriented towards how to mend things. Both entered a new relation..initial years were great and again there was a downfall. Now each of them felt wish i would have worked on my earlier relation though it would have taken time to mend things it could have been sorted as each one of us knew about each others plus and minuses'. They lived happily ever after adjusting their lives to each others needs and requirements in a hope that things will be as great as earlier. HOPE was their key to life now.


Point here is...nothing is permanent in life except change. The former couple accepted their mistakes.. Learned from the downfalls they had and supported each other in their goin forward. Both were aware about each others short comings and strengths...goin forward they never had to utilise their time in understanding each other rather they had to utilize it for execution of full proof plan.


The couple in the latter part failed to realise that same issues can be repeated moving forward. The found an easy way out but got caught in same trap again with nothing in hand but to adjust with each other as they were married. They had an option of divorce but that would have put a dark spot on their image in society. So a known devil is better than an unknown. Hehe.


To conclude i will say is as the product has a life cycles so does the relation. It goes from embryo stage to full maturity...and then it loses its share. So either change the product or keep
upgrading same adding some innovative features into it. Ex.Sony TV..came with LCD's..saw a downturn..upgraded to LED..then Bravia..then Bravia X-Reality..then Triluminous display..! But still they are Sony TV..! Lame example it may seem but if u relate well to your life then very useful too. Relation too needs constant upgradation at its every maturity phase. Dont let it off your hands. Finally its all about your love and for your love. This effort is trifle. Make your relationship so strong that it sustains heaviest of the blow. That's when you can say you ever had loved some one truly.


-Its SR


check the link: A good article on how todays generation goofs up dating as they are themselves confused with love and infatuation.
http://www.scoopwhoop.com/inothernews/we-are-doing-it-wrong-yo/
 

We the stereotype'd' !...time to change.

This article or my write up is an open discussion laid before both "today's" parents and youth.Well, we have seen that in our Asian culture, more specifically Indian Culture, majority of the families want their kid to get the best of education and and in his early twenty's land up in a job of 'their' choice.


What parents forget here is that likes and passions of every individual need not be same. Though they claim to be their bio-logical parents(claim-most of them are!) does not mean that their kid should inherit the same likes and passions that they behold.There would be many questions that an individual may confront at his late teens or early twenty's. Some of them be like-

What makes them so overbearing and watchful?

Why are they not ready to let teenies change course from their traditionally laid down trails?

Why they are so obsessed with their own format of living life and thinking pattern?

Why only education in form of written and oral tests are given primary importance even when the kid might not have a distinct liking towards it?

Aren't there any other ways a child can make his career?

Should be we ''Trained'' to achieve the pre-decided goals or should we be given an opportunity to lay our own?

Why working in McDonald's or any other retail outlet while pursuing your professional studies is looked down?

Why do they want us to think about the society all the time..be it with respect to our social circle,profession,our activities,our hobbies,love,marriage...!!?


Life at home sucks for you, and you can't wait until you can get out of the house.But is that always possible! As shown in films..the hero gets his backpack..a set of lenses and his pro cam and stays separately..turns out to be a good photographer and Whooow!!His life is set!

We see him doing it and we think we too can! But then there's are difference in Reel life and Real life.However, i don't deny the fact that many a times, if we take a right call, we might have the privilege of being heroes of our own life! Again, taking a call is dependent on several factors.Major ruling factors are our parents and 'their' society..and their values and their morals and their upbringing...and their preachings..and their care..and their love..and their expectations..and our mamis..mamas..uncles..aunts..grandpas/mas...!! WHERE ARE WE?

I had read an article sometime back. Sharing an excerpt:

Parental Tactics Of Coercion
The study delves deep into the effects of parental use of psychological control towards their teenage child. This psychological control was seen to incorporate tactics, such as inducing feelings of guilt in the child when he/ she did something that the parents thought was wrong, temporary withdrawal of love as a punishment tool and trying to foster anxiety within the child, in addition to other psychologically manipulative tactics aimed at getting desired behaviors from kids.

The research team felt that while these tactics would ensure a particular behavior from the child, by pressuring him into a decision that's in line with his parents' will, in the long haul, it would only reduce his ability to make his own judgments. So, even though parents tend to be happy when the child toes the line, what they fail to realize is that they may have just killed an opportunity to help the child learn, practicing self-direction and independent decision making. In future, this could make the child an easy target for coercion and manipulation.

By sharing this article i don't mean to demean Indian culture or the societal morals and ethics.But here i wish to focus on 'Law of Individuality' which clearly states that every individual is different when compared to other. This law will solve majority of problems if understood properly.

Often in the context of 'Independent Thinking' we forget that 'Independent' doesn't mean 'Self' or 'Selfish' or 'Self Centered Thinking or Self oriented Approach'. What it actually means is considering all the other factors and situations around how one should perceive, how one should reciprocate and how to take controlled measures!

A simple example would be when in a relation partners experience a downfall or loss of interest there could be multiple reasons associated with it.But during those times we only keep our own self in the center and keep thinking of all the things that have affected us! Here we tend to ignore our faults and we get more defensive in our approach.Sometimes we simply deny our responsibility towards our partner. When asked for the reasons we tend to use word 'ME' or 'I' forgetting that relation is all about 'US', 'WE'..One partner though is ready to sort all the things the other is reluctant saying that all wrongs have had a major impact on there life forgetting that impact is felt both ways. And then they wish to think 'Independently'. Here's the entire mess... 'cz in such situations independent thinking often gets restricted to one self. The thought process gets so self oriented and self centric that all negativeness get into your mind. You start seeing and assuming things which actually might be very different than what you perceived. In simple terms in such cases 'Independent Thinking = Thinking about your own self'. This is mostly the reason for break up stories.

If u ask me..every problem in this world can be sorted with communication. This is where most of the people get confused. Self respect, Pride and Ego are the main tools that make you lose a relation even where both the partners are aware of their love for each other.


We need to change our mindset. We need to understand that society plays an important role because that's the one who help us maintain our civilized status.If every single individual forgets what is actually meant by freedom and independentness then we might not be civilians in the making rather we might turn in to wild animals wandering down the streets. Stereotyped thinking must be stropped. Independent decision is must but thinking independently from all the sides and angles, by a different perspective, thinking into depth of why things are the way they are..and then coming to a rational solution is how the flow should be. Imposing decisions is wrong but the decision already taken is that really apt..!! that's what is to be thought off. Taking help and getting opinions from friends, elders and well wishers is always a welcome move. However, your mind should be open enough to also listen to the mistakes or criticisms that you get.We love listening when others tell us how right you are and dislike when we are shown the dark side of us. This is where we need to understand that 'an err is to human' and if we keep denying our mistakes and do not change the course of our action we are the ones who are putting every life at stake including our own!


Whether one has to work with McD's as a steward/captain while pursuing his education should be thought of from all the angles. Is it really required for him to work? Does that add value to his persona or his skills? how will this job benefit? How will he concentrate on his studies? Has he planned for the future? Where does he see himself after 3-4 years? Will this give him a sense of responsibility? and many more thoughts and questions will get answered if you try to find solutions rather than thinking "Why should my son/daughter work as a waiter in some food joint?". We have to get out of our own drawn peripheries and the ideologies that we tend to follow since ages. We need to broaden our outlook and start seeing world from a different perspective. Most Indians, however qualified they might be, still prefer 9-5 job rather than taking a different approach or thinking about being an Entrepreneur or having a own set up. A qualified engineer thinks that hes only good at engineering because his mindset is groomed in such a fashion that he finds it difficult to even think that he can or has an ability to put up his own business!! A Chartered Accountant should either teach, practice or land up in a job is what the trend says! Why cant he have his chain of hotels? Why can he float his own company? Why cant he be an entrepreneur? Why cant he be a dancer or singer!!!!! But we never feed our mind or look at things with different perspective! And when we do think differently all we think is of all the hurdles that we can face while stepping into a different venture and we stop there without even giving a second thought to all the solutions that lay ahead of us..all we require is to take one step ahead !!


AIB Roast is considered vulgar and political parties made a cry of it..! Did anybody even bother when parliamentary members were caught red handed watching porn inside the holy place of decision making for the country!! Does anybody even bother when our country is run by a bunch of politicians where majority of them don't even hold a basic qualification! But we have time to argue on a show that clearly had a adult certification.We have time to burn down shops selling Valentines Cards..carrying boards and hoardings in English..we have time to argue whether its 'Bombay' or 'Mumbai'..we changed the names but majority of articles and sections in Constitution of India still are adapted from British Law. We have time to argue on whether Sunny Leone is changing the face of Indian Cinema by making it more porno than acting! But nobody talks of increasing rapes and moral blindness of our Society...and there are many more such incidences. Again a play of narrow mindset and not being receptive where its required. People objecting feel that they have taken a matured step. Well, even Einstein or any great scholar hasnt yet defined what maturity is!


To conclude all i will say is we as a individual and as a team should make effort to look at things and situations with different perspective. When we will broaden horizons only then we will be receptive towards others ideas and thinking patterns.We will only then understand the purpose of their act, the words said, decisions taken and effort made. Think Independently without turning a blind eye and a deaf ear on others thoughts, ideas, emotions and the facts.Harmony and peace only then can be obtained.


-Its SR

Truth triumphs !!

In the darkest of the moments
      thou shalt be lost...
Let not thoughts be for strife
     And tongues for swords...
Truth may pain..
     May make u stain..
But..
Wisest are thas ,
     Who shalt be true thy heart..!!

-its SR

Heart Jus Dont Listen ! !

Sometimes this heart just won’t listen.

It still beats for, who ain’t yet mine.

But why blame heart,

Loving someone is not a crime!!

I want no mercy even if it is so...

But plz don’t ask me not to luv ya more!!

I am not begging ya to love me...

I’m not really even asking you.

But, isn’t it alright

if I cherish that hope in my heart?

Can’t I dream to hold you?

And consider u as my part..?

They say...

Loving some one ain’t a crime!!

I want no mercy even if it is so...

But plz don’t ask me not to luv you!

I will try to keep my eyes from shining

When they see you...

I will try not to be bemused

When u look at me...

And I promise...

I will try not to be elated

When u talk to me...

But plz, don’t ask me not to luv ya.

Sometimes this heart just won’t listen.

It still beats for, who ain’t yet mine.

But why blame heart,

Loving someone ain’t a crime!!

I want no mercy even if it is so...

But plz don’t ask me not to luv ya more!!

-its SR...

'LANGUAGE' of MUTES !!

One morning misty n fresh..
Down the streets ..
i was taking a walk.
Music buds kept playing...
As i had no one else to talk.

One-half a mile then..
Searched for a resting den..
Yes! Thr was a bench 
on the peddlers path.
Rushed to it..
Before anyone could grab my part.
But i missed it..
As it got occupied by couple
Who seemed never to go apart!


The boy had a rose..
Which he hid frm her..
And there she was ..
In a curious state and
Made some enquiring gestures!
Boy swayed his hands and 
Twisted and turned  his fingers..
Of-course! A reply by gesture!

He then went on his knees 
And offered her the flower !!

Stunned was she..

But joy in her eyes unmatched!

No words they had but signs..

He thn placed her hand on his heart.

Tears of joy rolled down her face..

Within no time..and with no words

Both were each others world!!!

I witnessed ths all..
The purity of mutes!
Blessed are we.. or they..??
Left me thinking!
And i learned a lesson..tat
"To spread love ..
let LANGUAGE be not a barrier..
'Cz they too can and spread love..
Who 'talk' language of mutes!!!"

its SR..

PuzZLeD !!?

Sometimes life is a puzzle,
Sometimes evething appears mazy,
Which makes be go crazy..
Thngs never thought
Will always sprout..
Leaving me in a doubt.

You wanna fall in love
But with a girl
Like a 'white dove'..
None like tat would you eve' find
Even if you keep your eyes on grind..
'cz Doves ain't jus beautiful but also
Stand for symbol of 'peace'..
Which can't be borrowed or leased.

I go right
..she goes left
Ask her to take ur way..!
And she says, 'in our relation..
Thrs nothn LEFT.. :( '
Demands are many..
But my supply falls short..
Prices keep soaring..
But still they shop..
Till everything appears boring..

When I was small
I learnt 'petter patter'..
Don't kno how girls learn to
'chitter chattar'..
Ask thm to stop  >_<
And there U start hearing
Things clatter!!!

Don't kno if m a fool
To still love her..
But whateve I say..
Lifes incomplete without her. <3:D

-Its SR :)

Eco Festivals:urgent call !!

Global warming is often referred as the gradual increase in the earths surface temperature.Its popular definition also says it is the warming caused by human activities.In technical term its known as 'Anthropogenic Global Warming'.
The common debate is whether the observed global warming is natural or man made!. Well..well..i don't intend showcase any extra gyan here using technical terms but my humble intent is to reach to those reading my blog to take some initiatives in whatever ways possible to take care of nature.
It was Holi, known as Festivals of colors, few days back.And i just happened to come across some facts when i was surfing.Immediately thought of sharing with everyone.I would like to add that i am not against any religious practices but i wont even stand for one causing environmental damage and would also try my best to prevent or reduce those from happening or atleast find some other substitute for same.

• How Holi bonfire can be anti-environmental?And what are the ways to overcome the problem?

The burning of fuel wood to create the bonfire for Holika Dahan presents serious environmental problem. According to a news article, studies done in the State reveal that each bonfire uses around 100 kg of wood, and considering that approximately 30,000 bonfires are lit in the state just for one season, this leads to a wastage of a staggering amount of wood. For certain communities like Fishermen community Holi is a very important festival which is celebrated for about 5 days. During this each group burns one tree (Mangrove species or Palm Species) for Holika Dhahan each day. All these traditions require a thought for celebration in a way not to harm environment. Ideally, the joyous festival of Holi is meant to celebrate the arrival of spring while the colors used in Holi are to reflect of the various hues of spring season. But unfortunately, in modern times Holi does not stand for all things beautiful. Like various other festivals, Holi too has become ruthlessly commercialized, boisterous and yet another source of environmental degradation. Environmental impacts associated with the holi festival are listed below.

• Burning of wood and other combustible material creates air pollution problems.
• Cutting of trees leads to loss of biodiversity.
• Colours produced from chemicals are toxic and can result in anything from skin allergies to cancer, eye irritation, dermatitis respiratory problems to blindness... and much more.
• They do not wash away easily, get mixed in drains and sewage systems and pollute water bodies and the soil.

     

Composition of a Few Holi Colours:

Chemical Colour	Composition	Health Effects
Black	Lead Oxide	Renal Failure, Learning disability
Green	Copper Sulphate	Eye Allergy, Temporary blindness
Purple	Chromium iodide	Bronchial asthma, Allergies
Silver	Aluminium Bromide	Carcinogenic
Red	Mercury Sulphite	Skin cancer, Minamata disease (mental retardation, paralysis, impaired vision...)

Celebrate Holi / Rangapanchami in an Eco-friendly manner:

To avoid environmental deterioration due to Holi / Rangapanchami some things should be taken into account while celebrating it.

• Do not cut green trees to burn in fire/ Holi.
• Collect dead wood and leaves for burning
• Bonfire would be of small in size.
• Organize one symbolic community fire, rather than several smaller bonfires across the city as a way to reduce pollution and deforestation.
• Use combustible waste material rather than wood like coconut coir, saw dust, or agricultural waste like dry grass, wheat straw etc.
• Celebrate holi as a Dry Holi to avoid wastage of water.
• To make aware people about environmental impacts of celebrating holi by traditional way and encourage people to celebrate it in an Eco friendly manner.
• Avoid use of chemically produced colour powders and pastes to prevent health hazard & environmental degradation.
• The safest alternative is the herbal dye.
• These dyes have turmeric and other floral and herbal extracts that act as anti-oxidants and are ultimately beneficial to the skin.
• Also, these are eco-friendly and do not harm the environment.
• Further, this herbal colour does not cause any irritation, skin allergies, respiratory problems or damage to your vital organs.
• When these colours are mixed with the soil and water they do not add toxicity to them, therefore it doesn’t harm the myriad life forms that live in the soil and water.
• By this we can bring back in large quantities the diverse plants and trees that give us these colours.
• In the Holi fire, all kinds of material other than the organic ones and those that cause harm, such as plastics, tyre tubes should be avoided as it gives rise to air pollution.
• To teach children in schools preparation of their own Holi colors from natural and safe ingredients like beetroot, rose petals, flowers, spinach and turmeric.

Awareness is important but just being aware and not taking action or initiatives is not going to help.So lets come together and celebrate festivals in such a way that it doesn't jeopardize either our posterity nor our mother nature.Eco festivals are the need of the day.Lets not blindfold our eyes under the pretext of beliefs and  religious practices.Its time to wake up and make a urgent call!

-Its SR