Showing posts with label Words to Share... Show all posts
Showing posts with label Words to Share... Show all posts

Friday, January 3, 2020

Ye mukhtasar si Shaam...




Ye mukhtasar si shaam
aur sitaron se bhara aasman... 
Itni chamak, aur kyun hai aaj isme itni jaan...!
Aaj ye raat... kyun hai lag rahi zeeshan?



Saath ho aap sabka agar...
toh jaise -
Khamoshiyon main bhi hai shor
in Andheron main ujala ghanghor 
Aab toh baas... baandhe rakhna hai ye ddoor.

Ekdum se thaam gayi jaise zindagi
Ekdam se ... tham gayi jaise Zindagi...
Chal rahi toh baas —
ye nadiyan hai
kuch sadiyaan hai
kuchon ki maan marziyaan hai...

Kya khuda se Humne aaj... 
ki yahin aarjiyaan hai..!?

Haathon main pakde hai jo jaam ... 
nasha nahi usme jitna 
usse kai jyada kar rahi hai ye shaam !

Aapke siva-e-yaaron... 
is mehfil ka... hai kya kaam !?
Aapke siva-e-yaaron 
Mukkamal kahan hai mera jahan !

Ye mukhtasar si shaam
aur sitaron se bhara aasman... 
Itni chamak, aur kyun hai aaj isme itni jaan...!

Aaj ye raat... kyun hai lag rahi zeeshan?
Aaj ye raat... kyun hai lag rahi zeeshan ?


-its SR...
07/12/2019


Wednesday, August 16, 2017

What is Patriotism??!




Born are we to the same ‘Mother’
Yet so different…

We share the same boundaries
But only they face wrath of wars on the Borders.
We fight for our rights
But only they fulfill citizens duties.
Without a quid pro quo… They protect us!

Is there a need…?
I ask you all… Why should they sacrifice?
When…
We are killing our own brothers and raping our own sisters!
I ask you all… why should they protect us from an outlander!!?
When… We stab our own men over caste, colour or religion…
I ask you all...
Why should they stand strong, as our shield, facing the rough winds…!??
While we plot and plan for our own greed, the Bigotry and treason...
under the name of one GOD or Other.
Even the God Himself laughs at us all…!

Our Soil has begun to infertile…
Because of our own evil…
And they lay their own life…protecting such civil…!?

Born are we to the same ‘Mother’
Yet so different.

This leaves me with just a question for all…
What is Patriotism? What is Patriotism!!?


-itsSR


Aug 15, 2017

Saturday, April 22, 2017

MSOP... A life re-lived !


 “Education is what remains after one has forgotten what one has learned in school”
-Albert Einstein

I kinda remember the clichéd dialogue of Chak De India said by King Khan, as it goes (modified to suit my topic)

pandhra din hai humare paas…shayad humare zindagi ke khaas padhra din…hum hare ya jite, ye zindagi ke 15 din zindagi bhar yaad rahenge…kaise khelna/sikhna hai ye koi nahi batayega…par itna jarur kahunga ki Aao yaaro ji bhar ke ye pandhra din khel/sikh lete hai…kyunki aage jakar koi ye yaad nahi rakhega ki tum hare ya jite…kitna sikhe..

Jo bhi ho par ye pandhra din tumse koi nahi chheen sakta…”

Whoooh…! And this was the exact spirit I came across when I was undergoing my MSOP training!!!

The first day started with me reaching 15 minutes early than the scheduled time as mentioned in e-mail and I was so happy.
Until somebody with a stern voice said “Don’t you know you have to reach here on time…now we can’t allow you in. You all were supposed to be here before 10 am.” Happiness is short lived as someone has rightly said… hehe.

Thoda dramatic karne ka toh…
Mere pairo ke niche se jameen khisak gayi thi… aur mera professionalism rom rom main jag utha… and I argued “Mam hum koi choote school ke bacche thodi hai…aur waise bhi time mentioned in mail is 10:30 am.” 
I have a smile on my face when I remember this incidence but that was necessary to share.

Lesson learnt: Misunderstanding should be dealt with correct approach even when u think u r not at fault. Matter should be conveyed with utmost respect and that’s the first step to be a respected professional.
I hereby take an opportunity to extend my heartfelt apologies to Ms. Kavita Mam.

As I enter in the classroom a girl with her sweet voice, low pitch but audible enough enquired about the incidence and consoled me as I was a bit upset as i missed the inauguration ceremony.
I took 5-10 minutes to understand her name..and hhaaa! finally I get that her name was ‘Ami’. Hehe.. She introduced me to rest of the few professionals present there to attend MSOP training.

Lesson learnt: Keep your egos aside. Go and start making conversations and this will make u feel a part of the batch.

On first day we all think if those 15 days are going to be torture or we all will gell up well and have fun but the problem we people is we think a lot and act less. However this was proved wrong by one of the student present, Nimesh, thanks a lot for your effort. J He took the efforts and sweet pains to create a Whatsaap group and keep the entire batch alive!

Lesson learnt: Team needs to be given recognition and involvement of all is necessary.

“Tell me and I forget. Teach me and I remember. Involve me and I Learn”
-Benjamin Franklin

“We must learn to live together as brothers or perish together as fools”
-Martin Luther King, Jr.
These adages come to my mind as I recite the incidence to you all.


Our batch of 32 was divided into 4 groups on the very first day consisting of 7-8 members each. This was may be the well thought process by Thane Chapter or ICSI so that members taking admissions in group don’t create a cartel or a lobby! Well in simple terms sabko sabke saath mix karo. A comfort level needs to be built up within the members coming from different backgrounds and this can be achieved only if two strangers are bought in one team. Initially we all start making stories about others just by looking at their appearances and few traits that we notice in the beginning, the ‘First impression’ as they say, later to realize that we had been so wrong about perceiving them from our glasses.

Lesson: We must learn to get out of our comfort zone.

We had to give our introduction after the groups were formed to the entire batch and we were also asked to answer “What is the weirdest thing we would like to do in our life…?”

Manjinder Singh (aka PAAJI), our batch mate, revealed the fact that marriage is the weirdest thing that happened to him…by force or choice…is best known to him. J HAHA!!

Trust me it was so funny to hear what others say but more important thing was to learn that we all have some desires, some out of the box thing to do, some dreams not related to career, some wild things that we wish to do but we are or have restricted from doing them? Profession does not say or bind you to do only those things that are related to your profession.

Lesson: Profession is a part of life and not vice a versa.

This reminds me of a quote:
“Hold the hand of the child that lives in your soul…for this child nothing is impossible.”
-Paulo Coelho

During the introduction session we came to know that there is also a member who has completed his Grads, Post Grads and CS at the age of 21 only!
I was in P.K state of mind that time, “Ee chora konhu gola se aaya hai konu khabar”.
Durgesh Soni, boss kudos to your achievements and spirit. Respect.
I dunno wanna share stories about his 4-5 girlfriends…! Thats heart wrenching!
Bhai kum bol diya hoga toh maafi chata hun. Hehe  J
Females out there I would just put a small disclaimer, Hes getting married, hes already unofficially engaged.. hehe J (Kitna sukun milta hai aisa bolte huve..!)

Lesson learnt: It’s not the age that matters…but the determination.

Well these were the few inspirations that I have put down which I experienced on the very first day. Now just imagine how much you could learn in those 15 days!! Those 15 days were an enthralling and the best learning experience I may have experienced in my life.
The first day itself we almost knew each other well enough to start with any conversation that hit our brains. I feel lucky to be in the 6th MSOP batch of Thane Chapter as I made friends not only from Mumbai or suburbs but also from Goa, Ahmednagar, Kerala, Assam, Pune, Kolhapur, Jalgaon and Amritsar…! This is what makes INDIA standout from rest of the nation, Unity in Diversity and so does that make our BATCH a standout too.

We had loads of fun in the following days. To put technically - those days were the ‘norming’ days. We got to know each other well. Those outings helped our bond grow strong. The stories we formed about each other during day one were now getting the reality touch, many were perceived wrong. After a day or two we all were less of only professionals but also more as family.
So, don’t make the first impression the last if you want to make friends.

With the fun comes responsibility of our friends. This was something that was well portrayed and put in practice by Hardik Shah, another friend and a batch mate. He used to personally ensure that the girls who used to hangout with us reach their destination safely and in time. Though that seems to be a small task it shows that society has to take efforts to be morally responsible towards girls too. Saying that I don’t mean that he never cared for boys in the group…hehe J. He was equally concerned for them too (had to put this- haha!). Thanks Hardik for making me understand this. I am sharing this act of his because we all care for friends whom we know since long but knowing someone only for a few days and still caring for them in the same manner is something we should learn.

We played a lot of games during our outings. Dare and truth, Badminton, table tennis, basket ball, cycling and before I forget, we may have clicked more than thousands pictures collectively. Mock Board Meetings and EGMs toh kar li…par hamne toh MOCK PROPOSING ki bhi practice kar li !!
Now guys..that was fun!! Nimesh..i am sure you remember our proposal to beautiful and pretty- Sheetal… the lucky girl to have two charming and handsome boys proposing her (thodi khudki bhi lal karte hai). It was more like mimicking Bikram and Bala proposing Priyanaka chopra in ‘Gundey’. While typing this thrs a background music that runs thru my head.. “tune mari entriyaan..dil main baji ghantiyan.. :P J” It was all so awesome!

One more notable thing was even the married men were pulled down to their college days. It was real fun and it was adorable to see those matured men put down the curtains of maturity and mingle with everyone of us. Paaji and Prashant and even Neha, the trios who were the only married of the entire lot of 32, adapted themselves to the batch of amatures like us..hehe!
Prashant ji aap ko maan gaye sir! The day one I saw you and the last day when I bid good bye to you (temporary wala J) the transition that you have made is remarkable. The stammering that happened when u spoke on day one wasn’t even noticed when you gave the presentation on second last day. Hats off to this dedication to learning! That’s really inspirational. Your team too, sure has done a great job here. Also thanks for the wonderful gifts that you distributed to everyone and also for managing the procurement and visiting shops for getting those gifts and token for thane chapter.

I was not much keen on carrying lunch box to the chapter on the first day and I did not. There were many who dint carry either. We all, say a dozen of us, actually raided a hotel nereby. That was one different kinda experience. But spending approximately Rs.130 per head daily for 15 days was something I felt can be avoided. What then?
The very next day I started carrying my lunch box and made a point that I carry a bit more to serve an additional person. The second day we all were sitting in all criss-cross rows and columns and sharing our ‘dabbas’ with each other. There were a few who resorted to outside food but it remained confined only till that day. 3rd day almost all of us were sharing each others dabbas. Now that’s the spirit! The fun we had during the lunch break time was a life time experience. It just reminded me of old school days. Few of us were literally roaming around to hunt down our meal ie.somebody elses dabba..and we grabbed and ripped and tore till we satisfied our stomachs. Well..dont take it literally..hehe. J
The pav bhajis.. farsans.. parathas.. dosas.. idlis.. pannermutter.. chicken.. omletes.. bhurjis.. dhoklas..u name it and we have it! Its not hard to guess how our second half was! 
Kumbhakaran bhi humare pass aya tha - aankhein khule rakhkar sone ki classes lene!

There was lot of flirting going around too but all in a good spirit. Parul, a friend and batch mate was the victim of many or rather she enjoyed being such a famous victim..hehe J.
Namratta, the queen of sad jokes hardly cracked any jokes coz she didn’t used to get time from laughing..!! Durgesh was ‘the knight in a smiling armour’ for her. The moment he opened his mouth she would start laughing!!“Rab ne bana di (temporary) Jodi..”.
It was strange but true that in short span also people can instantly connect to each other. Sneha another friend and a batch mate, Kolhapuri as we used to call her, was another loved victim. One of our faculty also told her that she looks more beautiful without spectacles and that blush on her face!! Haai..aaj bhi yaad hai hume. J
Aarti, wel she was one differently-abled (don’t take the word literally!! haha) person. She was about to get married ( may have got married till the time I publish this write up) and her weirdest dream was to ride a horse or rather sit on a horse in her ‘shadi ka joda’ in front of her in laws. Now that’s freaky!!…not for her but for the bechara horse, her husband, in laws and the other viewers!! Hehe J She’s also a great orator and this was evident during the presentations we were asked to deliver.

Lesson Learnt: Where there is a will there is a way (sach main aisa hua kya… let us kno!)

Another beautiful, sassy and a classy gurl, Ketki- You should see her speak or orate and your jaws may drop unless you are in the same league. It seemed she was absolutely well rehearsed (even if actually she wouldn’t have!) and the deliveries with perfect voice modulation and confidence! Not quite sure if she interacted much but she’s well remembered. Yea! Our plans of hanging around have remained plans forever I guess! Haha!

Hari Bhai, saalee teri dard bhari kahani ni hum sabko emotional kar diya tha! Taab mujhe saamajh aya that Bidi, chaini, cigarette, guuthka ye saab se jyada dangerous to ladkiyan hoti hai ! Pyar kambakhat, wahin apne jine ka sahara bhi hoti hai..! (Saab nahi.. kuch kuch!)

Life is a series of experiences, each one of which makes us bigger, even though sometimes its hard to realize this. For the world was built to develop character, and we must learn that the setbacks and grievances which we endure help us in marching onward.
-Henry Ford

You don’t learn to walk by following rules. You learn by doing, and falling over”
-Richard Branson

Lesson learnt: anything in excess is dangerous – Ladki ho ya gutkha!! hehe :P

Jigar, jay – can we term them as sober-est (if there is any such word) of boys in our batch!! Sharing and caring toh inse sikhna chaiye..! Dosti ke kuch pal, kuch yaadein, kuch lamhe tumhare naam yaaron!

I can go on and on.. I am sure I may have missed a lot others who have been as close to me as others mentioned above (you guys can comment on this memoir wala write up to add more). Just want to say that I - felt, cherished and enjoyed the felling of ‘oneness’ that we carried all throughout those days of training and astounded I write today that we still after almost 3 years stand the same!!

Really glad to have met all of you and thanks to you all for considering me a part of you!
(Lesson learnt: ‘apart’ and ‘a part’ – a space can make a hell lot of difference)

Stay in touch!! Hasta la vista!


Signing off- Its SR…

Tuesday, March 1, 2016

HUMANITY CRISES !!

                                                      I asked the Sun..
Do you not shine more on Blacks than on White?
I asked the Wind..
Why do you touch the untouchables!?
I asked the Moon and the stars..
Why do they provide light to the vagrant??
I asked the trees...
Why do they provide shade to a sordid!!?
I asked water..
Why does it quench a thirst of an ignoble!!?

WHY DONT THEY FOLLOW THE LAW OF HUMAN !!
A law..by the human..of the human and for the humans..
a law.. leading to Humanity Crises !
And i think...

Why are we Born?
To love and gain
Or
For Disdain and pain
is still not clear !
Whether to kill with swords or spears,
Has left "Humans" into a decipher !

What are we... HUMANS!
Think Again!

There are crimes on rise..
Amidst all betrayals and lies,
Where ever we go...
We are surrounded by Cries !!
Where eyes should be filled with love..
are but filled with greed and misery !
Are these the seeds
should we sow...for our Posterity !!?


Caste and colours
are looked upon in a glance
and every one is indulged
in a Self Religious trance !

Does Humanity even exists in a society..
Where..
EQUALITY has lost its stand !!

What are we... Humans !!
Think Again!

A soul is tired of being Alive
and is ready to die..
But there is a fear it cant deny..
of being Cremated or Coffined
'coz that is another reason in light
on which so called "Humans" may fight !!

Are we Humans?? Think Again!





-Its SR...
01/03/2016






Tuesday, February 9, 2016

The Mask !!

Whether its Birthday parties
Halloween or Christmas !
FRIDAY the 13th..
Scaring us at nights..
or any gutsy Knight
Wearing it all through his fight !!

The yellow suited man..
with a green face pack..
and a SMOKE IT tag..
gets all the power,
the humour and ecstacy
when he wears it right !

YES! its the MASK..the toy in light

Some wear for fun &livelihood
Some to scare
Some to protect
and Some for protest !

We use it to hide our feelings..
hid deep within.
With a torn, ripped and bleeding heart
WE SMILE !!
Words filled with subtleties
when Minds in bile..!

Yes! the Mask it is..
Sometimes needed..sometimes dangerous
Sometimes deceptive..sometimes tangled !
 Behind every smile..there are tears..
Behind every comfort there are fears!
What we see aint always real..
What seems far is sometimes near!!

Who seem to care..
May be a fictitious and lie..
Unmask...
and you see a face
clever and sly !!

When would the real us emanate..
when would the feelings rise
When would the fears fly!!

We too wear a mask..
not to deceive and cheat
But to protect ourselves
from all the lies so neat !

Glory and pride..
Love and care
Brother hood and share
can only be seeked
if our hearts are true and fair
to all that we reach!

Don't expect the world to be wise..
What you think is all where it lies!
Put off the toy..the Mask in time..

Else you wont realise
if its really you..
or the mask..
that has taken you over in stride!

- its SR...
09/02/2016


Saturday, February 21, 2015

Dont give up !

We humans always want it to be simple...ie.everything has to be done in simple way! We find ease in letting things go rather letting people go off our lives when we think they arent matching or running parallel with our thoughts.


I wouldn't be surprised if tomorrow our country is competing with western countries Divorce rates! "Impatience", "Misunderstandings", "Assumptions", "I AM RIGHT ATTITUDE", "ME", "I".... !! Where do we think the world will lead to if these are the words put in use often.
Would like to share a story...
There was a couple (still exist..😊) who were poles apart...both loved each other but both were hurt due to each other cz of some reasons. Reasons are many if they wanted to break up. And solutions are many if they wanted to stay together.
Easy way to get rid of all the hurt and suffering is to cut the person down. Another way is to scratch your brain and think of all the ways that can lead to a happy ending or rather a happy beginning. They selected the route two and stayed happily ever after. LOVE was their key now.


But the other couple selected the route one. One amongst them broke off. Both remained hurt..they thought it would be easy to move on. But soon realised that its very difficult to move on with some one esle with the same purity and same level of love. But they found it apt 'cz they felt they had lot of difference's.They didnt even attempt to work it out. No communication..no discussion oriented towards how to mend things. Both entered a new relation..initial years were great and again there was a downfall. Now each of them felt wish i would have worked on my earlier relation though it would have taken time to mend things it could have been sorted as each one of us knew about each others plus and minuses'. They lived happily ever after adjusting their lives to each others needs and requirements in a hope that things will be as great as earlier. HOPE was their key to life now.


Point here is...nothing is permanent in life except change. The former couple accepted their mistakes.. Learned from the downfalls they had and supported each other in their goin forward. Both were aware about each others short comings and strengths...goin forward they never had to utilise their time in understanding each other rather they had to utilize it for execution of full proof plan.


The couple in the latter part failed to realise that same issues can be repeated moving forward. The found an easy way out but got caught in same trap again with nothing in hand but to adjust with each other as they were married. They had an option of divorce but that would have put a dark spot on their image in society. So a known devil is better than an unknown. Hehe.


To conclude i will say is as the product has a life cycles so does the relation. It goes from embryo stage to full maturity...and then it loses its share. So either change the product or keep
upgrading same adding some innovative features into it. Ex.Sony TV..came with LCD's..saw a downturn..upgraded to LED..then Bravia..then Bravia X-Reality..then Triluminous display..! But still they are Sony TV..! Lame example it may seem but if u relate well to your life then very useful too. Relation too needs constant upgradation at its every maturity phase. Dont let it off your hands. Finally its all about your love and for your love. This effort is trifle. Make your relationship so strong that it sustains heaviest of the blow. That's when you can say you ever had loved some one truly.


-Its SR


check the link: A good article on how todays generation goofs up dating as they are themselves confused with love and infatuation.
http://www.scoopwhoop.com/inothernews/we-are-doing-it-wrong-yo/
 

Wednesday, February 18, 2015

We the stereotype'd' !...time to change.



This article or my write up is an open discussion laid before both "today's" parents and youth.Well, we have seen that in our Asian culture, more specifically Indian Culture, majority of the families want their kid to get the best of education and and in his early twenty's land up in a job of 'their' choice.


What parents forget here is that likes and passions of every individual need not be same. Though they claim to be their bio-logical parents(claim-most of them are!) does not mean that their kid should inherit the same likes and passions that they behold.There would be many questions that an individual may confront at his late teens or early twenty's. Some of them be like-

What makes them so overbearing and watchful?

Why are they not ready to let teenies change course from their traditionally laid down trails?

Why they are so obsessed with their own format of living life and thinking pattern?

Why only education in form of written and oral tests are given primary importance even when the kid might not have a distinct liking towards it?

Aren't there any other ways a child can make his career?

Should be we ''Trained'' to achieve the pre-decided goals or should we be given an opportunity to lay our own?

Why working in McDonald's or any other retail outlet while pursuing your professional studies is looked down?

Why do they want us to think about the society all the time..be it with respect to our social circle,profession,our activities,our hobbies,love,marriage...!!?


Life at home sucks for you, and you can't wait until you can get out of the house.But is that always possible! As shown in films..the hero gets his backpack..a set of lenses and his pro cam and stays separately..turns out to be a good photographer and Whooow!!His life is set!

We see him doing it and we think we too can! But then there's are difference in Reel life and Real life.However, i don't deny the fact that many a times, if we take a right call, we might have the privilege of being heroes of our own life! Again, taking a call is dependent on several factors.Major ruling factors are our parents and 'their' society..and their values and their morals and their upbringing...and their preachings..and their care..and their love..and their expectations..and our mamis..mamas..uncles..aunts..grandpas/mas...!! WHERE ARE WE?

I had read an article sometime back. Sharing an excerpt:

Parental Tactics Of Coercion
The study delves deep into the effects of parental use of psychological control towards their teenage child. This psychological control was seen to incorporate tactics, such as inducing feelings of guilt in the child when he/ she did something that the parents thought was wrong, temporary withdrawal of love as a punishment tool and trying to foster anxiety within the child, in addition to other psychologically manipulative tactics aimed at getting desired behaviors from kids.

The research team felt that while these tactics would ensure a particular behavior from the child, by pressuring him into a decision that's in line with his parents' will, in the long haul, it would only reduce his ability to make his own judgments. So, even though parents tend to be happy when the child toes the line, what they fail to realize is that they may have just killed an opportunity to help the child learn, practicing self-direction and independent decision making. In future, this could make the child an easy target for coercion and manipulation.

By sharing this article i don't mean to demean Indian culture or the societal morals and ethics.But here i wish to focus on 'Law of Individuality' which clearly states that every individual is different when compared to other. This law will solve majority of problems if understood properly.
Often in the context of 'Independent Thinking' we forget that 'Independent' doesn't mean 'Self' or 'Selfish' or 'Self Centered Thinking or Self oriented Approach'. What it actually means is considering all the other factors and situations around how one should perceive, how one should reciprocate and how to take controlled measures!

A simple example would be when in a relation partners experience a downfall or loss of interest there could be multiple reasons associated with it.But during those times we only keep our own self in the center and keep thinking of all the things that have affected us! Here we tend to ignore our faults and we get more defensive in our approach.Sometimes we simply deny our responsibility towards our partner. When asked for the reasons we tend to use word 'ME' or 'I' forgetting that relation is all about 'US', 'WE'..One partner though is ready to sort all the things the other is reluctant saying that all wrongs have had a major impact on there life forgetting that impact is felt both ways. And then they wish to think 'Independently'. Here's the entire mess... 'cz in such situations independent thinking often gets restricted to one self. The thought process gets so self oriented and self centric that all negativeness get into your mind. You start seeing and assuming things which actually might be very different than what you perceived. In simple terms in such cases 'Independent Thinking = Thinking about your own self'. This is mostly the reason for break up stories.

If u ask me..every problem in this world can be sorted with communication. This is where most of the people get confused. Self respect, Pride and Ego are the main tools that make you lose a relation even where both the partners are aware of their love for each other.


We need to change our mindset. We need to understand that society plays an important role because that's the one who help us maintain our civilized status.If every single individual forgets what is actually meant by freedom and independentness then we might not be civilians in the making rather we might turn in to wild animals wandering down the streets. Stereotyped thinking must be stropped. Independent decision is must but thinking independently from all the sides and angles, by a different perspective, thinking into depth of why things are the way they are..and then coming to a rational solution is how the flow should be. Imposing decisions is wrong but the decision already taken is that really apt..!! that's what is to be thought off. Taking help and getting opinions from friends, elders and well wishers is always a welcome move. However, your mind should be open enough to also listen to the mistakes or criticisms that you get.We love listening when others tell us how right you are and dislike when we are shown the dark side of us. This is where we need to understand that 'an err is to human' and if we keep denying our mistakes and do not change the course of our action we are the ones who are putting every life at stake including our own!


Whether one has to work with McD's as a steward/captain while pursuing his education should be thought of from all the angles. Is it really required for him to work? Does that add value to his persona or his skills? how will this job benefit? How will he concentrate on his studies? Has he planned for the future? Where does he see himself after 3-4 years? Will this give him a sense of responsibility? and many more thoughts and questions will get answered if you try to find solutions rather than thinking "Why should my son/daughter work as a waiter in some food joint?". We have to get out of our own drawn peripheries and the ideologies that we tend to follow since ages. We need to broaden our outlook and start seeing world from a different perspective. Most Indians, however qualified they might be, still prefer 9-5 job rather than taking a different approach or thinking about being an Entrepreneur or having a own set up. A qualified engineer thinks that hes only good at engineering because his mindset is groomed in such a fashion that he finds it difficult to even think that he can or has an ability to put up his own business!! A Chartered Accountant should either teach, practice or land up in a job is what the trend says! Why cant he have his chain of hotels? Why can he float his own company? Why cant he be an entrepreneur? Why cant he be a dancer or singer!!!!! But we never feed our mind or look at things with different perspective! And when we do think differently all we think is of all the hurdles that we can face while stepping into a different venture and we stop there without even giving a second thought to all the solutions that lay ahead of us..all we require is to take one step ahead !!


AIB Roast is considered vulgar and political parties made a cry of it..! Did anybody even bother when parliamentary members were caught red handed watching porn inside the holy place of decision making for the country!! Does anybody even bother when our country is run by a bunch of politicians where majority of them don't even hold a basic qualification! But we have time to argue on a show that clearly had a adult certification.We have time to burn down shops selling Valentines Cards..carrying boards and hoardings in English..we have time to argue whether its 'Bombay' or 'Mumbai'..we changed the names but majority of articles and sections in Constitution of India still are adapted from British Law. We have time to argue on whether Sunny Leone is changing the face of Indian Cinema by making it more porno than acting! But nobody talks of increasing rapes and moral blindness of our Society...and there are many more such incidences. Again a play of narrow mindset and not being receptive where its required. People objecting feel that they have taken a matured step. Well, even Einstein or any great scholar hasnt yet defined what maturity is!


To conclude all i will say is we as a individual and as a team should make effort to look at things and situations with different perspective. When we will broaden horizons only then we will be receptive towards others ideas and thinking patterns.We will only then understand the purpose of their act, the words said, decisions taken and effort made. Think Independently without turning a blind eye and a deaf ear on others thoughts, ideas, emotions and the facts.Harmony and peace only then can be obtained.


-Its SR



Tuesday, March 27, 2012

Eco Festivals:urgent call !!

Global warming is often referred as the gradual increase in the earths surface temperature.Its popular definition also says it is the warming caused by human activities.In technical term its known as 'Anthropogenic Global Warming'.
The common debate is whether the observed global warming is natural or man made!. Well..well..i don't intend showcase any extra gyan here using technical terms but my humble intent is to reach to those reading my blog to take some initiatives in whatever ways possible to take care of nature.
It was Holi, known as Festivals of colors, few days back.And i just happened to come across some facts when i was surfing.Immediately thought of sharing with everyone.I would like to add that i am not against any religious practices but i wont even stand for one causing environmental damage and would also try my best to prevent or reduce those from happening or atleast find some other substitute for same.

  • How Holi bonfire can be anti-environmental?And what are the ways to overcome the problem?

The burning of fuel wood to create the bonfire for Holika Dahan presents serious environmental problem. According to a news article, studies done in the State reveal that each bonfire uses around 100 kg of wood, and considering that approximately 30,000 bonfires are lit in the state just for one season, this leads to a wastage of a staggering amount of wood. For certain communities like Fishermen community Holi is a very important festival which is celebrated for about 5 days. During this each group burns one tree (Mangrove species or Palm Species) for Holika Dhahan each day. All these traditions require a thought for celebration in a way not to harm environment. Ideally, the joyous festival of Holi is meant to celebrate the arrival of spring while the colors used in Holi are to reflect of the various hues of spring season. But unfortunately, in modern times Holi does not stand for all things beautiful. Like various other festivals, Holi too has become ruthlessly commercialized, boisterous and yet another source of environmental degradation. Environmental impacts associated with the holi festival are listed below.

  • Burning of wood and other combustible material creates air pollution problems.
  • Cutting of trees leads to loss of biodiversity.
  • Colours produced from chemicals are toxic and can result in anything from skin allergies to cancer, eye irritation, dermatitis respiratory problems to blindness... and much more.
  • They do not wash away easily, get mixed in drains and sewage systems and pollute water bodies and the soil.
     

Composition of a Few Holi Colours:


Chemical ColourCompositionHealth Effects
BlackLead OxideRenal Failure, Learning disability
GreenCopper SulphateEye Allergy, Temporary blindness
PurpleChromium iodideBronchial asthma, Allergies
SilverAluminium BromideCarcinogenic
RedMercury SulphiteSkin cancer, Minamata disease (mental retardation, paralysis, impaired vision...)

Celebrate Holi / Rangapanchami in an Eco-friendly manner:

To avoid environmental deterioration due to Holi / Rangapanchami some things should be taken into account while celebrating it.

  • Do not cut green trees to burn in fire/ Holi.
  • Collect dead wood and leaves for burning
  • Bonfire would be of small in size.
  • Organize one symbolic community fire, rather than several smaller bonfires across the city as a way to reduce pollution and deforestation.
  • Use combustible waste material rather than wood like coconut coir, saw dust, or agricultural waste like dry grass, wheat straw etc.
  • Celebrate holi as a Dry Holi to avoid wastage of water.
  • To make aware people about environmental impacts of celebrating holi by traditional way and encourage people to celebrate it in an Eco friendly manner.
  • Avoid use of chemically produced colour powders and pastes to prevent health hazard & environmental degradation.
  • The safest alternative is the herbal dye.
  • These dyes have turmeric and other floral and herbal extracts that act as anti-oxidants and are ultimately beneficial to the skin.
  • Also, these are eco-friendly and do not harm the environment.
  • Further, this herbal colour does not cause any irritation, skin allergies, respiratory problems or damage to your vital organs.
  • When these colours are mixed with the soil and water they do not add toxicity to them, therefore it doesn’t harm the myriad life forms that live in the soil and water.
  • By this we can bring back in large quantities the diverse plants and trees that give us these colours.
  • In the Holi fire, all kinds of material other than the organic ones and those that cause harm, such as plastics, tyre tubes should be avoided as it gives rise to air pollution.
  • To teach children in schools preparation of their own Holi colors from natural and safe ingredients like beetroot, rose petals, flowers, spinach and turmeric.


Awareness is important but just being aware and not taking action or initiatives is not going to help.So lets come together and celebrate festivals in such a way that it doesn't jeopardize either our posterity nor our mother nature.Eco festivals are the need of the day.Lets not blindfold our eyes under the pretext of beliefs and  religious practices.Its time to wake up and make a urgent call!

-Its SR








Sunday, December 5, 2010

CHARITY BEGINS AT HOME.....rightly said but negligibly implemented.

It seen that in practice development means material advancement. All the great thoughts about developing the finer aspects of human beings are not translated into reality while such developments have apparently made life easier. They have thrown up many new, serious and urgent challenges before mankind such as the phenomenal rise of human population, demographic transition etc….


Same is the case with ageing. An individual may age with grace or he may turn  bitter with frustration.
As goes the adage:
“Some wines mature and become mellow,
Others turn sour and decay.”

A person’s age depends on his outlook of his life. Well as a graph of physical process, aging is a natural process. However, at what age is person called old? In this sense, a person would be said to be old when he is unable to function efficiently.To put it in humour..
"Old age is where couples switch off their lights at night for economical reasons...rather than for romantic ones.."
:) Jokes apart..
              
Old age is an irreversible part and biological phenomenon one that eventually terminates with the end of life of a human being. That is more like science.. but in our daily life where attitudes, behavior, values, aesthetics rule, there is more that can be defined of  an old age. It is one experience that cannot be had otherwise. When the trails of experience and wisdom have made a lasting impression on human itself, one can say he is never out of it. It is a gift, which no one can refuse to take.
However, the transformations brought in our society sometimes make us scare of this stage.However everyone of us has to face it one day.
  

Using Blog as a platform..i would like to bring to your notice few problems that Elderly people face today..
1.Elder physical Abuse:
Elder abuse is a growing problem. While we do not know all of the details about why abuse occurs or how to stop its spread, we do know that help is available for victims. Concerned people, like you, can spot the warning signs of a possible problem, and make a call for help if an elder is in need of assistance. Elder abuse is a term referring to any knowing, intentional, or negligent act by a caregiver or any other person that causes harm or a serious risk of harm to a vulnerable adult. The specificity of laws varies from state to state.




2.Sexual Abuse:

 Defined as non-consensual sexual contact of any kind with an elderly person. Sexual contact with any person incapable of giving consent is also considered sexual abuse. It includes, but is not limited to, unwanted touching, all types of sexual assault or battery, such as rape, sodomy, coerced nudity, and sexually explicit photographing.

3.Emotional or Psychological Abuse:
Emotional or psychological abuse is defined as the infliction of anguish, pain, or distress through verbal or nonverbal acts. Emotional/psychological abuse includes, but is not limited to verbal assaults, insults, threats, intimidation, humiliation, and harassment. In addition, treating an older person like an infant; isolating an elderly person from his/her family, friends, or regular activities; giving an older person the "silent treatment;" and enforced social isolation are examples of emotional/psychological abuse.

  4.Nursing home abuse:
 
Eye witness accounts and surveys have sadly shown that nursing home abuse and neglect is a serious problems. Generally the causes for such abuses reported are:
 Ø   Stressful working conditions, especially staff shortages..
 Ø   Staff burn out,
 Ø   Inadequate staff training etc.

5.Neglect:

 Neglect is defined as the refusal or failure to any part of a person’s obligation or duties to an elder. Neglect may also include failure of a person who has fiduciary responsibilities to provide care for an elder (e.g. pay for necessary home care services) or the failure on the part of an in-home services provider to provide necessary care.
Neglect typically means the refusal or failure to  provide  an elderly persons with such life necessity as food, water clothing, shelter, and other essentials included in an implied or agreed-upon responsibility to an elder.
Abandonment is defined as the desertion  of  an elderly persons by an individual who has assumed responsibilities for providing care of an elder, or by a persons with  physical custody of an elder.

6.Abandonment:
Abandonment is defined as the desertion  of  an elderly persons by an individual who has assumed responsibilities for providing care of an elder, or by a persons with  physical custody of an elder.


To deal with those problems many NGO's, Social Activists and Our Government has taken steps.But are we so immature and stone hearted that we require some mediocre to take those steps...!!!Are we so immune to our own parents feelings and emotions that we just put them or get them admitted into Senior citizens or Elderly people care centre.If others can create a HOME FOR AGED..then why cant we for our own PARENTS..!!

 ..THEY WERE THE ONES WHO TAUGHT US HOW TO WALK..

     NOW ITS OUR RESPONSIBILITY TO HELP THEM WALK THEIR LAST STAGES...

  LET US STAND UP AND SHOULDER OUR DUTIES AS OBEDIENT CITIZENS AND AS OBIDIENT CHILDREN..
                                          .. "CHARITY BEGINS AT HOME"..
THEN WHY NOT ENSURE THE SECURITY OF OUR OWN PARENTS FIRST.AND THEN CLAIM GOVERNMENTS FOR THEIR SECURITIES LIKE TRIPARTITE PACKAGE OF UNIVERSAL SOCIAL PENSIONS,FREE HEALTH CARE AND NON-DISCRIMINATORY LAWS...

"AFTER ALL..THEY WEREN'T BORN OLD..AND NO ONES THERE TO STAY YOUNGER FOREVER..."

-its SR